I married a Frenchman, what should I do?

I am a widow with a son, Paul. I am an American. I'd been living abroad, and met my future husband there. We got married (his people were not overjoyed, but treated me all right), and at first it was wonderful. But then Raymond started telling me what to wear, what to do, and who to be friends with (before marriage I was friendly with his cousin, Lili Estradina, but he told me to drop her after we got married, because she was not respectable enough). We went to live on his property, de Saint Desert. It's a big, damp house in the countryside. There is nothing to do, and we are saving on everything. Only my mother-in-law's room is warmed, we go without. My husband is out all the day long, visiting the farms, and my mother-in-law sits on the terrace and knits. I have some money of my own, and am welcome to spend it as I wish, and that is that. While we strive thus, Raymond's younger brother Hubert makes new and new debts, and, apparently, my husband is responsible for them, as the "head of the family". We go nowhere, see no one, we do not travel. We have a house in Paris, but it tenanted with the several little rooms for our use. We strife and strife to pay his debts, and every time it's "the last time, I shall have to pull the poor boy out." We have had a million of these last times. I am so miserable and depressed. We could not even take a sea side treat, which doctor ordered to Paul, because of some silly long morning. What should I do?